While being a parent can be one of life’s most rewarding careers it can also be one of the most difficult jobs on the face of the earth. This task becomes even more difficult if you are a single parent. Now while people will say that a mother’s love is boundless this love is evident when the mother is a single mother. As a single parent, you are completely responsible for every aspect of your child’s life.
So while you may not have every luxury to give your children you do have the time to spend with them. This time may be limited but you will do your utmost to make sure that the rest of life doesn’t take you away from them during this time. In addition, you can always get help from your family and ask them to help out.
The life of a single mother is demanding as you have to support your children, see to all of their school needs and pay the various household bills. In addition to these tasks, you have to give them the unconditional love of a mother and father. These are the times that having the support and encouragement of single mother programs can be wonderful.
You will find that there are a large number of these single mother programs that you can join. At these groups, you will meet other single mothers who are trying to cope with the various problems in their lives and that of raising their children. The task of raising a child all by yourself is daunting because you have to both loving and capable of giving the appropriate discipline when it is required.
In addition to this task, you will have to be able to meet all of their emotional needs and reassure them that they are very important to you. While this is not always possible with your career you can find friends at these single mother programs who can help you out by providing the names of childminding groups who can look after your kids until you come back home from your job.
At these single mother programs, you can talk about what is going on in your lives, the private part and the part that is devoted to working. You will be able to find out how other single mothers manage to give their children the love and discipline that is they need while they also work full-time.
Whether you’re a two-parent family or a single-parent family raising your kids is not a walk in the park. What happens though when you’re a single dad with all that it implies? Do single dads have it harder on them raising kids all on their own? Or might they have it slightly easier than single moms? Is there anything called “easy” though where raising your kids is concerned though?
You guessed rightly, there’s nothing called “easy” where raising is kids is involved, it just depends on the varying degrees of hardness. So where do single dads stand in all of this? If two-parent families have a hard time then how are the lowly single dads supposed to cope?
Well, first of all, you should stop thinking of yourselves as “lowly” to begin with. There’s no such thing as lowly single dads, I’m sorry to say that it’s all in your minds and is a social and media-driven myth. Single dads are just as capable of bringing up children on their own as are single mothers, and with no less degree of success either. It’s all in your mind whether you’re going to give in to the stereotypical image of single dads and be as helpless as a newborn baby when it comes to raising your kids or whether you’re going to take the bull by the horns and raise your kids the way they should be.
So you’re a single dad, does it matter? You can do everything that a mother could do, except for breastfeeding of course, but you must have heard of milk bottles by now right? So use them! And if your kids are more grown-up and top the scale at knee-high to a grasshopper you can still do everything that a mother could. Single dads can still heal and kiss away hurt knees and elbows, and you can still try your hand at baking.
What about when they get older? You can teach them to drive, advise them when they fall in love for the first time, and console them when they go through their first breakup. Single dads are qualified to all this and more. So what are you waiting for? Your child needs you and just because you’re one of the many single dads out there it doesn’t necessarily follow that you’ll be incompetent and unable to bring up your children to be a credit to you.
When you first took on the job of parenting it’s a good bet that you never really knew what exactly you were letting yourself in for. Sure you might have babysat a few times when you were growing up, and if you weren’t an only child or the youngest, then you had been around babies at some point in time in your life. However, nothing in your life before this had prepared you for the task ahead, and know that your kids are in their teens you find yourself floundering even more. You’re parenting troubled teens and you don’t know what to do.
You’re at the end of your tether and you’ve tried everything. Nothing seems to work and you’re feeling the claws of despair ripping into you. You’ve tried talking to your teens but you just end up shouting and you don’t want to do that anymore.
You might be parenting troubled teens but that doesn’t mean you need to go back to being a teenager yourself. Talking to your teens’ school counselors might help so you take that first step. Then you take the next step and take your kids to see a therapist.
This works for a time and you begin to see some light at the end of the tunnel and you begin to hope that your days of parenting troubled teens will be behind you. However, as time goes by you notice that your teen starts changing back to the troubled uncooperative teen they were before therapy.
Perhaps you need to take a good look at what’s happening. Sure you’re parenting troubled teens and your nerves are shot, but maybe they’re trying to tell you something with their behavior.
Maybe they’re telling you is the only way they think you’ll hear them that all is not right in their universe. You never know until you get yourself under control first and start listening to them.
There could be some reasons for their behavior and if things were working with therapy, then maybe something happened later to change everything. You need to talk with them and find out, there’s no better way than talking with your teen.
It’s a hard road to walk being a parent, but it becomes harder still when you’re parenting troubled teens. Nothing in life will ever be easy at that point, but if you open yourself up to their hurts and frustrations you might be able to help them deal with them.