When you first took on the job of parenting it’s a good bet that you never really knew what exactly you were letting yourself in for. Sure you might have babysat a few times when you were growing up, and if you weren’t an only child or the youngest, then you had been around babies at some point in time in your life. However, nothing in your life before this had prepared you for the task ahead, and know that your kids are in their teens you find yourself floundering even more. You’re parenting troubled teens and you don’t know what to do.
You’re at the end of your tether and you’ve tried everything. Nothing seems to work and you’re feeling the claws of despair ripping into you. You’ve tried talking to your teens but you just end up shouting and you don’t want to do that anymore.
You might be parenting troubled teens but that doesn’t mean you need to go back to being a teenager yourself. Talking to your teens’ school counselors might help so you take that first step. Then you take the next step and take your kids to see a therapist.
This works for a time and you begin to see some light at the end of the tunnel and you begin to hope that your days of parenting troubled teens will be behind you. However, as time goes by you notice that your teen starts changing back to the troubled uncooperative teen they were before therapy.
Perhaps you need to take a good look at what’s happening. Sure you’re parenting troubled teens and your nerves are shot, but maybe they’re trying to tell you something with their behavior.
Maybe they’re telling you is the only way they think you’ll hear them that all is not right in their universe. You never know until you get yourself under control first and start listening to them.
There could be some reasons for their behavior and if things were working with therapy, then maybe something happened later to change everything. You need to talk with them and find out, there’s no better way than talking with your teen.
It’s a hard road to walk being a parent, but it becomes harder still when you’re parenting troubled teens. Nothing in life will ever be easy at that point, but if you open yourself up to their hurts and frustrations you might be able to help them deal with them.